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mercredi 8 janvier 2014

4 Keys To Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back

By Erick Hastings


A successful plan for reuniting with your girlfriend or wife doesn't have to be complex. The key to your success is staring you back in the face every morning when you wake up. It is you. You are the key to winning her back and you are the only thing standing in your way of achieving this goal. It's not what you say or do that is important. It is all in your attitude as a man that will melt her heart and make her fall in love with you again. Instead of trying to be perfect or make her happy, focus on yourself and how your ex views you as a man and you will begin to see changes.

Most guys make the mistake of falling apart when their girlfriend or wife leaves them. Chances are that she was thinking about breaking up with you for some time before she had the courage to actually end the relationship. Perhaps you gave her a reason to leave. The reason probably wasn't what she told you it was. The reason that she left has more to do with a lack of respect for you as a man than anything she told you before she left you. It's your job now to show her that you're a man. This means no crying, begging or pleading for a second chance. This means that you can not tell her that you love her until she tells you that she loves you first. This means no contacting her or annoying her with requests to talk or see each other until you have your life straightened out and you are strong again.

Your attitude towards your ex girlfriend or your wife is everything. Although this may sound difficult for you, having the attitude that you are willing to simply walk away is how you must be perceived. If you see her and she starts to yell at you or act disrespectful towards you, simply walk away. She is not a part of your life anymore. She is not your girlfriend or your wife and you will not tolerate this kind of treatment from her. Tell her so, turn your back to her and walk away. You might be surprised that she will come running after you. It happens and if she is accustomed to you standing there and taking her abuse then this will be a huge change for her. She will respect you for this and she will begin to see you differently.

Being cool and calm in the face of adversity and reigning in your emotions is important. Resist the temptation to argue with her or show any sign that you're still upset about the break up. Your new attitude must be positive and optimistic. Your new life is filled with possibilities. You are happy and looking forward to what life has in store for you. You are in the process of rebuilding your life. You have a direction and you have goals and dreams for what you wish to accomplish in life. You might even feel happy about the freedom that this break up has given you. No matter what, you are happy because women find men that are happy and optimistic about life very attractive. If you find yourself confronted with negative emotions or you become upset over something, remember that you must be happy at all costs. If you feel completely overwhelmed, find a place where you can be alone for five minutes to regain your composure. Tell yourself that things will change and that your life is getting better and better all the time. Remind yourself that you must appear happy and in control at all times. Men are capable of such strength and you are a real man.

Many women try to take control of a relationship and you can probably look back and see that your girlfriend or wife controlled many things in your life. It could be that she told you what she thought that you should do or even what clothes you should wear. A woman really doesn't want to be in control in a relationship. A woman will test a man to see if he will give up control but at the end of the day, she wants you to be the man. Even simple things like making a decision about where you will go to eat is a test. You might not care but she wants you to make a decision. In the future, don't allow her to make the decisions in your life. If she doesn't like it then don't worry. She will get over it. This includes when the time comes for you to get back together. She will test you and try to tell you where you should meet or when. Deny her control and make alternate suggestions even if you don't have plans. Take control of the situation and your relationship.

Your self-confidence is the cornerstone of your success in any aspect of your life. Your ability to believe in yourself and what you can achieve will determine how hard you try and whether you give up on yourself. How can you expect a woman to love you if you don't have the same love and confidence in yourself? Your self-confidence or self-esteem is evident in how you handle yourself in all situations. Your ex will be able to see it in how you stand, your facial expression, the look in your eyes and your body language as a whole. If you are worried, scared, nervous or doubtful about anything, especially your ability to win your girlfriend or wife back, she will be able to see it in your body language. Work on your self-esteem every day. Work on your self-confidence the same way that you would work on any muscle group in your body. Spend some time telling yourself positive and optimistic things. Make a list of your redeeming qualities and stop comparing yourself to other men. In your world, you are the best and most important person. Without you, life ceases to exist in your world. Take care of yourself first so you can care for others such as the woman you love. Let that feeling be evident in how you walk, talk, stand, sit, smile, laugh and even chew bubble gum. Confidence and high self-esteem is very attractive to women and your ex is a woman so make it happen.

No matter how difficult it has been having your girlfriend or wife leave you, it is possible to reunite with them rather quickly. You will be tempted to go back to how you were before. You'll be tempted at times to doubt that your new attitude will make a difference. You will worry that it's all going to backfire on you but if you are strong, change will come. How she feels about you will change. Men are not kind and caring toward women that treat them poorly. It's a sign of weakness. In the future, once you do get back together with her, you can treat her kindly but don't overdo it. You can love her and still be the man that she needs you to be. Pick and choose when you will take her advice but don't allow her to treat you poorly. Don't allow her to lose respect for you again. She needs you to be the man in the relationship. When you're not in control, she will look for someone that will protect her and care for her. It's up to you whether that man is you or some other guy that is either already in her life or waiting to take control of the situation. Let that man be you and get her back before it's too late.




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