Your desire to get back together with your ex-girlfriend or wife is very normal. The loss of someone that you care about in your life can be devastating. If your ex was a part of your life every day then you might be feeling a little lost and lonely. The rejection from the breakup has taken a toll on your ego, your self-esteem and your confidence. While you search for a solution and wait for your ex to come back, it is important that you remain cool and calm. When it comes to your relationship, your attitude has everything to do with your success.
While you might want to try all the typical methods to win your girlfriend or wife back, without attraction and desire on her part, your attempts will be fruitless. If you have already tried to convince her to come back to you then you have probably done some damage. If you have been highly emotional or even begged her to give you another chance, this can be overcome. Don't worry. It is important that you allow her to come to you, though. This means that you shouldn't be contacting your ex until you have your confidence back. Typically, a good rule of thumb is that you shouldn't contact your ex until the day comes when you no longer feel the urge to contact her.
Your primary focus now is to change how your ex-girlfriend or potential future ex-wife thinks about you. This is going to require you to change your general attitude towards her and women overall. What will this attitude be like? Your attitude should be one where you are unwilling to tolerate being talked down to or treated in any way that makes you feel uncomfortable. If your ex does make you feel uncomfortable or upset, you need to be willing ahead of time to walk away both from the relationship as well as the conversation. Always keep this in mind and remind yourself of this new attitude and it will be felt by your ex-girlfriend if not seen by her the next time she starts treating you poorly.
Try not to worry about how your girlfriend or wife is going to react. You might fear that by doing this she will think that you're done with the relationship or that you're just bluffing but you will be surprised. What you are actually doing is taking the power away from her in the relationship. What you're going to do from now on when she treats you poorly is to tell her quietly and in a matter of fact tone that she is not your girlfriend or your wife and that you don't have to listen to her garbage. You will turn away from her and literally walk away. This is what a man who has some self-confidence would do and it works. She will either come after you to apologize immediately or she will apologize at some point when she realizes that you're serious. Resist the temptation to listen to her if she comes after you and continues to yell at your or laugh at you. Once you have removed yourself from the situation on your own terms you will have passed her test and she will have gained some much needed respect for you as a man.
If you have every let your wife or ex-girlfriend see you upset, crying or emotionally distraught over your breakup, that has to end. Never let your ex know that you're upset, sad, lonely or missing them. Always have a smile on your face or a happy demeanor any time you're in public and especially when you see your ex. Your body language should be of a man that is confident, secure and happy with life. You have the freedom now to create the life that you dream about and you feel good about yourself. The sky is the limit and every day you are getting better and better. You have a lot going for you and you are free to live your life the way you want.
The temptation might be there still to want your ex to think that you're sad about your breakup. You might think that she will expect you to be sitting at home alone in the dark missing her and wanting her to come back to you. Look, you will gain nothing by portraying this side of you to your girlfriend. She will only lose respect for you and view you as sad and pathetic. Pain does not equal love. If she wonders if you miss her then she should ask you. This is your life we're talking about and every day that you spend being upset and lonely is a wasted day. Don't ever let her see you cry or upset about the breakup and never tell her that you love her. You can tell her that you love her about a minute or two after she confesses that she still loves you. Make her sweat a little bit.
This is your time to really plan out your life and begin to dream. You can still secretly include her in your dreams or even make plans based upon what the two of you used to dream but, for now, this is your life we're talking about. Write down some of the goals that you have for yourself. If you could live life on your terms, what would it look like. Don't hold anything back. Shoot for the stars. Write down exactly what you would do, who you would be doing it with and include every feeling, emotion and nuance that you can think of. Take this breakup as being a wake-up call. Losing your girlfriend or wife can give you the motivation to create a life that anyone in their right mind would be happy to be a part of and it's your life.
With a strong, positive attitude you can change your life and change how your ex thinks and feels about you. Your fears are unfounded and you will find later on down the road that all the things that you are worrying about are wrong. You might think that your ex will be upset if you don't appear to miss her when in actuality she will feel sad herself. You worry about moving on with your life because you fear that your ex will think that this means that you don't love her. The truth is that she will feel left out and begin to feel attracted to you because of your new attitude. Take the bull by the horns and stand up for yourself. Be strong and you will find that your ex and every other woman on the face of the planet will find you more attractive. Soon your ex will be knocking on your door or calling you on the phone to find out how you are and what you've been up to. This is the first sign that she wants to get back together. Will you be prepared to talk to her when that moment comes?
While you might want to try all the typical methods to win your girlfriend or wife back, without attraction and desire on her part, your attempts will be fruitless. If you have already tried to convince her to come back to you then you have probably done some damage. If you have been highly emotional or even begged her to give you another chance, this can be overcome. Don't worry. It is important that you allow her to come to you, though. This means that you shouldn't be contacting your ex until you have your confidence back. Typically, a good rule of thumb is that you shouldn't contact your ex until the day comes when you no longer feel the urge to contact her.
Your primary focus now is to change how your ex-girlfriend or potential future ex-wife thinks about you. This is going to require you to change your general attitude towards her and women overall. What will this attitude be like? Your attitude should be one where you are unwilling to tolerate being talked down to or treated in any way that makes you feel uncomfortable. If your ex does make you feel uncomfortable or upset, you need to be willing ahead of time to walk away both from the relationship as well as the conversation. Always keep this in mind and remind yourself of this new attitude and it will be felt by your ex-girlfriend if not seen by her the next time she starts treating you poorly.
Try not to worry about how your girlfriend or wife is going to react. You might fear that by doing this she will think that you're done with the relationship or that you're just bluffing but you will be surprised. What you are actually doing is taking the power away from her in the relationship. What you're going to do from now on when she treats you poorly is to tell her quietly and in a matter of fact tone that she is not your girlfriend or your wife and that you don't have to listen to her garbage. You will turn away from her and literally walk away. This is what a man who has some self-confidence would do and it works. She will either come after you to apologize immediately or she will apologize at some point when she realizes that you're serious. Resist the temptation to listen to her if she comes after you and continues to yell at your or laugh at you. Once you have removed yourself from the situation on your own terms you will have passed her test and she will have gained some much needed respect for you as a man.
If you have every let your wife or ex-girlfriend see you upset, crying or emotionally distraught over your breakup, that has to end. Never let your ex know that you're upset, sad, lonely or missing them. Always have a smile on your face or a happy demeanor any time you're in public and especially when you see your ex. Your body language should be of a man that is confident, secure and happy with life. You have the freedom now to create the life that you dream about and you feel good about yourself. The sky is the limit and every day you are getting better and better. You have a lot going for you and you are free to live your life the way you want.
The temptation might be there still to want your ex to think that you're sad about your breakup. You might think that she will expect you to be sitting at home alone in the dark missing her and wanting her to come back to you. Look, you will gain nothing by portraying this side of you to your girlfriend. She will only lose respect for you and view you as sad and pathetic. Pain does not equal love. If she wonders if you miss her then she should ask you. This is your life we're talking about and every day that you spend being upset and lonely is a wasted day. Don't ever let her see you cry or upset about the breakup and never tell her that you love her. You can tell her that you love her about a minute or two after she confesses that she still loves you. Make her sweat a little bit.
This is your time to really plan out your life and begin to dream. You can still secretly include her in your dreams or even make plans based upon what the two of you used to dream but, for now, this is your life we're talking about. Write down some of the goals that you have for yourself. If you could live life on your terms, what would it look like. Don't hold anything back. Shoot for the stars. Write down exactly what you would do, who you would be doing it with and include every feeling, emotion and nuance that you can think of. Take this breakup as being a wake-up call. Losing your girlfriend or wife can give you the motivation to create a life that anyone in their right mind would be happy to be a part of and it's your life.
With a strong, positive attitude you can change your life and change how your ex thinks and feels about you. Your fears are unfounded and you will find later on down the road that all the things that you are worrying about are wrong. You might think that your ex will be upset if you don't appear to miss her when in actuality she will feel sad herself. You worry about moving on with your life because you fear that your ex will think that this means that you don't love her. The truth is that she will feel left out and begin to feel attracted to you because of your new attitude. Take the bull by the horns and stand up for yourself. Be strong and you will find that your ex and every other woman on the face of the planet will find you more attractive. Soon your ex will be knocking on your door or calling you on the phone to find out how you are and what you've been up to. This is the first sign that she wants to get back together. Will you be prepared to talk to her when that moment comes?
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