How do you get the attention of that cute guy that you've always wished would ask you out? Is a baseball bat an option or should you go for something a little more subtle? Often it is the very man that we wish would ask us out that we feel invisible to. Attracting his attention and letting him know in a subtle way that we are attracted to him can be a challenge but not impossible. How can you cut him away from the herd of women that are competing for his attention and make him see that you're truly something special?
Even though it is acceptable in this day and age to ask a guy out on a date, you might not want to do this. For many men, this is a turn off. It very well might spell certain death to your potential relationship if he is the kind of man that wants to feel like a man. Even though it's not a problem for many men, you still might want him to make the first move. This puts the power in your hands and even though you may have led him to this decision in some subtle ways, it will still be his idea that the two of you spend some quality time together.
Not matter what, try to be true to yourself at all times. If you've done any research on him and you know a few things about him, resist the temptation to like the things that you know he likes. Try not to be someone that you're not. We all like honesty and it's much less confusing if things do work out if you haven't misrepresented yourself in any way. There's nothing wrong with you. You are lovable just as you are. If he likes football and you can't stand the sport just tell him that it's not your thing. If you like he's going to know it and you'll look like a fool instead of someone that doesn't enjoy football. There's no shame in that.
As far as those delicate questions that you might want to plead the fifth amendment on, honesty is always the best policy. If you come from a poor family or if you've been divorced or if you didn't complete your university education, be honest about it or plead the fifth. It can be equally as embarrassing for him if he accidentally uncovers something unpleasant and he makes you feel uncomfortable. Your strength is in how you handle it. You are still a good person and worthy of being loved in spite of your past. Everybody makes mistakes and all of us have a skeleton or two in our closet. Be proud of yourself and love yourself and he will fall in love with you too. It's called self-confidence.
When you are communicating with him, whether that be talking in person, on the phone or through text messages, let him talk. Avoid that temptation to spill your guts and try to impress him. Let him impress you. If he is asking question after question, stop him and blatantly tell him that it's your turn to learn a little bit about him. Once you get him talking you should be able to find out a lot about him. With each answer there is the opportunity to dig deeper into his life, his hopes and his dreams. Listening to him talk will allow you to get a better idea of who he is as well as whether he truly is the man of your dreams. Letting him talk will also allow you to bond with him. Most women take a more passive role in conversations with guys that they like. You will be seen as different. Letting him talk tells him that you are truly interested in him..
Be bubbly and happy any time you see him. It's proven that women who are seen as the bubbly type have guys chasing them all the time. Men like to be with women who are happy and optimistic about like. So many women can be negative, catty and complainers. If you keep this in mind and try not to let yourself get down, you stand a much better chance of being seen as attractive in his eyes. Everybody can find something to complain about at any time but it takes a strong woman to laugh it off and push forward with life. Nobody likes spending time with someone that is angry, upset or depressed about life. It's a turn off for everyone so remember this the next time your tempted to complain about the food, the temperature in the restaurant or how mean your boss was to you today.
If you feel that flirting is out of style or just not your thing then think again. Flirting is one of the most powerful weapons that you have in your arsenal to get the attention of the man of your dreams. Men are visual so anything that you can do to visually allow him to get the message that you're interested in him will work. He might not hear your words but if you wink at him, he will get the message. If you flip your hair and then look up at him through a lock of hair, he will forget what his name is. Flirting works and if you think that it won't work for you then there is surely another girl out there that will prove to you that the guy you're interested in is susceptible to flirting.
Getting a guy's attention is easy. Keeping him interested is a whole different story. What you have learned here can and will make any man understand that you are interested in him. He will know that you find him attractive and he will want to get to know you better. You can test these tricks out starting right now if you want to. A walk around the shopping mall should find you some likely volunteers and don't be surprised if you get asked for your number. Once you feel confident, try these methods out on the man of your dreams and let him sweep you off your feet.
Even though it is acceptable in this day and age to ask a guy out on a date, you might not want to do this. For many men, this is a turn off. It very well might spell certain death to your potential relationship if he is the kind of man that wants to feel like a man. Even though it's not a problem for many men, you still might want him to make the first move. This puts the power in your hands and even though you may have led him to this decision in some subtle ways, it will still be his idea that the two of you spend some quality time together.
Not matter what, try to be true to yourself at all times. If you've done any research on him and you know a few things about him, resist the temptation to like the things that you know he likes. Try not to be someone that you're not. We all like honesty and it's much less confusing if things do work out if you haven't misrepresented yourself in any way. There's nothing wrong with you. You are lovable just as you are. If he likes football and you can't stand the sport just tell him that it's not your thing. If you like he's going to know it and you'll look like a fool instead of someone that doesn't enjoy football. There's no shame in that.
As far as those delicate questions that you might want to plead the fifth amendment on, honesty is always the best policy. If you come from a poor family or if you've been divorced or if you didn't complete your university education, be honest about it or plead the fifth. It can be equally as embarrassing for him if he accidentally uncovers something unpleasant and he makes you feel uncomfortable. Your strength is in how you handle it. You are still a good person and worthy of being loved in spite of your past. Everybody makes mistakes and all of us have a skeleton or two in our closet. Be proud of yourself and love yourself and he will fall in love with you too. It's called self-confidence.
When you are communicating with him, whether that be talking in person, on the phone or through text messages, let him talk. Avoid that temptation to spill your guts and try to impress him. Let him impress you. If he is asking question after question, stop him and blatantly tell him that it's your turn to learn a little bit about him. Once you get him talking you should be able to find out a lot about him. With each answer there is the opportunity to dig deeper into his life, his hopes and his dreams. Listening to him talk will allow you to get a better idea of who he is as well as whether he truly is the man of your dreams. Letting him talk will also allow you to bond with him. Most women take a more passive role in conversations with guys that they like. You will be seen as different. Letting him talk tells him that you are truly interested in him..
Be bubbly and happy any time you see him. It's proven that women who are seen as the bubbly type have guys chasing them all the time. Men like to be with women who are happy and optimistic about like. So many women can be negative, catty and complainers. If you keep this in mind and try not to let yourself get down, you stand a much better chance of being seen as attractive in his eyes. Everybody can find something to complain about at any time but it takes a strong woman to laugh it off and push forward with life. Nobody likes spending time with someone that is angry, upset or depressed about life. It's a turn off for everyone so remember this the next time your tempted to complain about the food, the temperature in the restaurant or how mean your boss was to you today.
If you feel that flirting is out of style or just not your thing then think again. Flirting is one of the most powerful weapons that you have in your arsenal to get the attention of the man of your dreams. Men are visual so anything that you can do to visually allow him to get the message that you're interested in him will work. He might not hear your words but if you wink at him, he will get the message. If you flip your hair and then look up at him through a lock of hair, he will forget what his name is. Flirting works and if you think that it won't work for you then there is surely another girl out there that will prove to you that the guy you're interested in is susceptible to flirting.
Getting a guy's attention is easy. Keeping him interested is a whole different story. What you have learned here can and will make any man understand that you are interested in him. He will know that you find him attractive and he will want to get to know you better. You can test these tricks out starting right now if you want to. A walk around the shopping mall should find you some likely volunteers and don't be surprised if you get asked for your number. Once you feel confident, try these methods out on the man of your dreams and let him sweep you off your feet.
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