Full disclosure: This article is not going to put humans in the best light. But I'm going to go out on a limb here and openly suspect that you'd rather get laid by gorgeous girls than have your ego stroked, right?Humans are lazy. Incredibly lazy. We're always trying to get as much as we can, with as little effort as possible. This has always been true. Ever since monkeys started walking on their hind legs. Heck, even before that.
Girls, on the other hand, don't give looks to much credence. Sure, if a guy looks like eye candy, they'll like ogling him and may even sleep with him. But they won't consider him as relationship material, even for a second.In order to really impress a girl on a deep level, you've got to have some solid communication skills. Memorized patterns only go so far. Sure, you can open her up with some memorized lines, and play some mental chess game with her potential responses, but the further the conversation goes, the more real conversational skills you'll need.
Which scenario do you think would get you more action, where you walk into a club all by your lonesome, or if you walk in the head of a huge posse, made up of hot looking guys and girls?If you had a huge posse of both guys and girls, it would be impossible NOT to get laid. By yourself? That's a different matter.
However, there are some kind of psychological techniques you can use to imply social proof, even if you are alone. The technique we'll be using today comes from covert hypnosis, as created by Dr. Milton Erickson.The specific pattern is called the "non specific referential index." It basically means when you use a pronoun (he, she, they) without first describing who he, she, or they are. The person listening will just have to kind of fill in the blanks on their own.
As an added bonus, you'll quickly find out plenty of stuff to share with her, about you, that gives you both that incredible, "me, too!" feeling of connection.Finding out how to impress a girl is a lifelong process for a lot of guys. Most guys spend their time trying to "show off," in order to win her approval. Sometimes this works, sometimes it doesn't.
If you've got some expensive hobbies, for example, you can covertly slip these into the conversation to show her what an "alpha male" you are. This is a technique taught by many seduction gurus.It works, and it works well. Even if you don't have any expensive hobbies, you can frame your behaviors and hobbies so they "sound" like they're ultra alpha.For example, being a pilot screams of high powered, high valued alpha male with a lot of money. Only brave, confident and rich guys can fly planes, right?
Because being a nice guy really isn't being a nice guy. It's being an afraid guy. A nice guy only says "safe" things. Not because he's worried about her feelings, but because he's terrified of being rejected. This guy is always walking on eggshells, because getting rejected is the absolute worse thing that can happen.The next step up is the jerk. This guy is also terrified of being rejected. But he pushes out instead of pulls back. He steps on other peoples toes to scare them away, so they don't step on his. He's the bully that runs away crying as soon as he meets somebody bigger than him.
Now, just like there's a few girls that like softies, there's a few girls that like jerks. Not really "like" them, but somehow feel attracted to them.Why? They make them feel safe. As jerky as they are, they can at least protect her. If she goes out with a more sensitive guy, she still may feel in danger. That guy may not fight for her.
Now, I'm talking about opening up like some beta-puppy who's seeking her approval. I'm talking about the confidence of a man who's got some alpha deep down in his bones.The kind of man who honestly LIKES who he is. Somebody who doesn't worry about trying to impress other people, because he doesn't care one way or the other what people think of him. He doesn't choose his hobbies based on how he thinks people will judge him.
Girls absolutely LOVE guys like this. They are kind, they have an ultra strong frame, and they can throw down when they need to.It's kind of a paradox. When you develop the "kind guy" attitude, people will sense that under that calm exterior is a warrior underneath. And if they awaken that warrior, it will spell certain doom.On the other hand, having a "kind guy" on your side is the best of both possible worlds.That's why if you want to impress a girl, developing a "kind guy" attitude is the surest way to her heart, and in between her sheets.
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Girls, on the other hand, don't give looks to much credence. Sure, if a guy looks like eye candy, they'll like ogling him and may even sleep with him. But they won't consider him as relationship material, even for a second.In order to really impress a girl on a deep level, you've got to have some solid communication skills. Memorized patterns only go so far. Sure, you can open her up with some memorized lines, and play some mental chess game with her potential responses, but the further the conversation goes, the more real conversational skills you'll need.
Which scenario do you think would get you more action, where you walk into a club all by your lonesome, or if you walk in the head of a huge posse, made up of hot looking guys and girls?If you had a huge posse of both guys and girls, it would be impossible NOT to get laid. By yourself? That's a different matter.
However, there are some kind of psychological techniques you can use to imply social proof, even if you are alone. The technique we'll be using today comes from covert hypnosis, as created by Dr. Milton Erickson.The specific pattern is called the "non specific referential index." It basically means when you use a pronoun (he, she, they) without first describing who he, she, or they are. The person listening will just have to kind of fill in the blanks on their own.
As an added bonus, you'll quickly find out plenty of stuff to share with her, about you, that gives you both that incredible, "me, too!" feeling of connection.Finding out how to impress a girl is a lifelong process for a lot of guys. Most guys spend their time trying to "show off," in order to win her approval. Sometimes this works, sometimes it doesn't.
If you've got some expensive hobbies, for example, you can covertly slip these into the conversation to show her what an "alpha male" you are. This is a technique taught by many seduction gurus.It works, and it works well. Even if you don't have any expensive hobbies, you can frame your behaviors and hobbies so they "sound" like they're ultra alpha.For example, being a pilot screams of high powered, high valued alpha male with a lot of money. Only brave, confident and rich guys can fly planes, right?
Because being a nice guy really isn't being a nice guy. It's being an afraid guy. A nice guy only says "safe" things. Not because he's worried about her feelings, but because he's terrified of being rejected. This guy is always walking on eggshells, because getting rejected is the absolute worse thing that can happen.The next step up is the jerk. This guy is also terrified of being rejected. But he pushes out instead of pulls back. He steps on other peoples toes to scare them away, so they don't step on his. He's the bully that runs away crying as soon as he meets somebody bigger than him.
Now, just like there's a few girls that like softies, there's a few girls that like jerks. Not really "like" them, but somehow feel attracted to them.Why? They make them feel safe. As jerky as they are, they can at least protect her. If she goes out with a more sensitive guy, she still may feel in danger. That guy may not fight for her.
Now, I'm talking about opening up like some beta-puppy who's seeking her approval. I'm talking about the confidence of a man who's got some alpha deep down in his bones.The kind of man who honestly LIKES who he is. Somebody who doesn't worry about trying to impress other people, because he doesn't care one way or the other what people think of him. He doesn't choose his hobbies based on how he thinks people will judge him.
Girls absolutely LOVE guys like this. They are kind, they have an ultra strong frame, and they can throw down when they need to.It's kind of a paradox. When you develop the "kind guy" attitude, people will sense that under that calm exterior is a warrior underneath. And if they awaken that warrior, it will spell certain doom.On the other hand, having a "kind guy" on your side is the best of both possible worlds.That's why if you want to impress a girl, developing a "kind guy" attitude is the surest way to her heart, and in between her sheets.
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