Meeting that special person can be exhilarating and as time goes on you feel that special soul mate connection is really there. As time goes on, you feel that maybe this is the man you will have a very long committed relationship with. You then bring up the subject about where this is all going and he is without words. That sick feeling takes over and you wonder if maybe he will eventually be in the same emotional place as you are.
The answer really isn't magical, although the results may seem that way. Often times, the man is just as concerned about being rejected or refused as you are. There may be other issues that could be holding him back, perhaps even some that you really should know about before saying "yes". Here are some tips to weave your own "spell" to take the relationship to the next level.
1. Timing is everything - If you are going to bring up "forever" doing it while driving, watching television or online is probably not going to be conducive to getting the response you want. Pick a quiet moment when there are no distractions, no schedules or time frames, just the two of you and ask him why the two of you can't be like this forever.
2. Seeing is believing and vice versa - Sometimes the non-verbal messages we receive carry more information that those filled with words. When the two of you are together pay attention to his body language. If you notice that he seems to physically pull back whenever the "c" word comes up, don't be afraid to ask him how he feels. On the other end of the spectrum, if he seems to be opening up his "space" to include you more and more, tell him how good that feels and how nice it would be if it were for a longer period of time.
3. Owning your feelings - This is your best opportunity to let him know how much you really value him in this relationship and what he means to you. This may calm down any stress he has about the subject of commitment and chances are he will tell you his truth if you tell him yours.
4. The time is right - Even if it turns out that he is unready, unwilling or unable to give you the answer you were hoping for, at the very least, you can make a realistic decision whether to stay with things as they are or move on to find that special spiritual link that your heart calls for.
Your biggest fear at this point may be rejection if he says "No" or isn't really ready yet. On the other hand, when your future is at stake and he says "Yes", the magic will return to you as you vow to be committed to each other. The feelings you will have cannot be matched when you have found your future and commitment, because it truly is like magic.
The answer really isn't magical, although the results may seem that way. Often times, the man is just as concerned about being rejected or refused as you are. There may be other issues that could be holding him back, perhaps even some that you really should know about before saying "yes". Here are some tips to weave your own "spell" to take the relationship to the next level.
1. Timing is everything - If you are going to bring up "forever" doing it while driving, watching television or online is probably not going to be conducive to getting the response you want. Pick a quiet moment when there are no distractions, no schedules or time frames, just the two of you and ask him why the two of you can't be like this forever.
2. Seeing is believing and vice versa - Sometimes the non-verbal messages we receive carry more information that those filled with words. When the two of you are together pay attention to his body language. If you notice that he seems to physically pull back whenever the "c" word comes up, don't be afraid to ask him how he feels. On the other end of the spectrum, if he seems to be opening up his "space" to include you more and more, tell him how good that feels and how nice it would be if it were for a longer period of time.
3. Owning your feelings - This is your best opportunity to let him know how much you really value him in this relationship and what he means to you. This may calm down any stress he has about the subject of commitment and chances are he will tell you his truth if you tell him yours.
4. The time is right - Even if it turns out that he is unready, unwilling or unable to give you the answer you were hoping for, at the very least, you can make a realistic decision whether to stay with things as they are or move on to find that special spiritual link that your heart calls for.
Your biggest fear at this point may be rejection if he says "No" or isn't really ready yet. On the other hand, when your future is at stake and he says "Yes", the magic will return to you as you vow to be committed to each other. The feelings you will have cannot be matched when you have found your future and commitment, because it truly is like magic.
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Get your psychic readings and tarot readings by master psychic Lou Raedwulfe and be sure to check out his posts on the psychic blog for his articles on love, relationships and soul mates.
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