Due to a lack of energy from the brutal Winter months, for the initial couple of weeks of Spring, I was uncharacteristically slacking on the upkeep of my looks. I figured that I looked good enough to suffice for my romantic goals. I was acquiring tail and I still looked much better compared to most of my competitors. What could go wrong?
From a quantity standpoint, my performance was typical. But from a quality standpoint, I was pulling a below what i was accustomed to. The quantity of effort I needed to place in was also more than average. Not extremely, mind you, but yet noticeably so. Recently, I renewed my efforts to look fresh each time I hit the streets and the improvement in my game has been equally recognizable. I've been getting even more eye contact from hotter chicks and they were more responsive when I approached.
The gains I made weren't huge, but I could definitely feel them. I initially wrote it off as just another case of "look good, don't look bad", but a peculiar hypothesis dawned upon me one day as I was ogling girls on the street with some friends.
We were trading notes on the best ways to determine who the sexually generous girls are based on appearance alone. Jingly bracelets and earrings is good sign. T-shirt underneath a camisole implies don't bother. Tanning at the coast in a bikini means she's comfortable being naked. Floppy hat and long sleeves means you're looking at a premature old lady. Odd style plus no war paint means Chinese, which amounts to garlic breath and attitude.
A United States Navy officer was there with us that day. He had only been in Japan for a few months and his only input into the conversation was, "I'm just going to assume they're all sluts."
Then it dawned on me: Japanese gals have a similarly if not much more sophisticated sorting capability for Japanese guys, and a comparatively unsophisticated one for non-Asians. It's simply natural-- they spend their whole lives surrounded by and connecting with largely Japanese men. They recognize exactly how to detect a Japanese guy that cares for himself and one who does not. They will rapidly catch on to the nuances that show high or low sexual worth in a Japanese man.
It bears repeating that the ability to sort Japanese men according to their desirability is not an active process. It occurs on the subconscious level, much like a flinch. Soccer players, after practicing for years on end, no longer have to actively think about the process of dribbling; it just happens as they move.
So, many social Japanese females are specialists at sorting Japanese men. This implies that if you appear to be East Asian, you need to be on point or risk of running head first into non-negotiable rejection. Other foreigners with more exotic looks will have more wiggle room to work their magic because an unfamiliar face will briefly delay Japanese girls' automated filters. But, speaking from my own personal experience, this effect is not enough to overcome any glaring deficiencies. Expats need to look presentable to get Japanese girls, period. Noticeable schlubs will be turned down outright despite their skin tone.
Bear in mind is that this sorting process can work to the Asian man's advantage. If he lands on the favorable side of it, he can have a great deal of success with less hassle and with even more girls compared to his western counterpart. If he doesn't, he's in for some harsh times ahead.
In a nutshell, if you're an Asian bachelor looking for a good time in Tokyo, you'd best come correct.
From a quantity standpoint, my performance was typical. But from a quality standpoint, I was pulling a below what i was accustomed to. The quantity of effort I needed to place in was also more than average. Not extremely, mind you, but yet noticeably so. Recently, I renewed my efforts to look fresh each time I hit the streets and the improvement in my game has been equally recognizable. I've been getting even more eye contact from hotter chicks and they were more responsive when I approached.
The gains I made weren't huge, but I could definitely feel them. I initially wrote it off as just another case of "look good, don't look bad", but a peculiar hypothesis dawned upon me one day as I was ogling girls on the street with some friends.
We were trading notes on the best ways to determine who the sexually generous girls are based on appearance alone. Jingly bracelets and earrings is good sign. T-shirt underneath a camisole implies don't bother. Tanning at the coast in a bikini means she's comfortable being naked. Floppy hat and long sleeves means you're looking at a premature old lady. Odd style plus no war paint means Chinese, which amounts to garlic breath and attitude.
A United States Navy officer was there with us that day. He had only been in Japan for a few months and his only input into the conversation was, "I'm just going to assume they're all sluts."
Then it dawned on me: Japanese gals have a similarly if not much more sophisticated sorting capability for Japanese guys, and a comparatively unsophisticated one for non-Asians. It's simply natural-- they spend their whole lives surrounded by and connecting with largely Japanese men. They recognize exactly how to detect a Japanese guy that cares for himself and one who does not. They will rapidly catch on to the nuances that show high or low sexual worth in a Japanese man.
It bears repeating that the ability to sort Japanese men according to their desirability is not an active process. It occurs on the subconscious level, much like a flinch. Soccer players, after practicing for years on end, no longer have to actively think about the process of dribbling; it just happens as they move.
So, many social Japanese females are specialists at sorting Japanese men. This implies that if you appear to be East Asian, you need to be on point or risk of running head first into non-negotiable rejection. Other foreigners with more exotic looks will have more wiggle room to work their magic because an unfamiliar face will briefly delay Japanese girls' automated filters. But, speaking from my own personal experience, this effect is not enough to overcome any glaring deficiencies. Expats need to look presentable to get Japanese girls, period. Noticeable schlubs will be turned down outright despite their skin tone.
Bear in mind is that this sorting process can work to the Asian man's advantage. If he lands on the favorable side of it, he can have a great deal of success with less hassle and with even more girls compared to his western counterpart. If he doesn't, he's in for some harsh times ahead.
In a nutshell, if you're an Asian bachelor looking for a good time in Tokyo, you'd best come correct.
About the Author:
Japanese girls can be a mystery. They certainly were to me, and I'm Japanese-American. Fortunately, I figured out how to lead a life of romantic abundance in the land of the rising sun. Learn everything I wish I'd known about meeting Japanese girls back when I was a college graduate on my blog: redsunblue.com
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