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samedi 1 février 2014

Taking A Stand Against Mental Bullying

By Serena Price


Everyone remembers a bully. They would be the ones you would find terrorizing the kids in the neighborhood, and getting what they wanted free of charge. They were the ones that brought about fear that was real along with torment. Bullies still exist today, but they are much more prevalent. They're not the ones that just bring about physical harm, but they specialize in mental bullying.

This type of bullying comes about when someone tries to get what they want by making someone feel afraid or intimidated by things that one says or does. Contrary to belief, it doesn't just happen on the school playground. It can be found among adults as well. It could be found on the job, or in the midst of intimate relationships. It often comes in the form of threatening, belittling, name-calling, lying, or even humiliation.

Bullies try their best to make someone pay for mistakes that were unintentional. Sometimes, those that ask simple questions are often targeted through the use of sarcasm. No matter what they say, they will always experience some type of emotional trauma. Humiliating pranks and actions are many times used as common disguises for bullying. Every prank done in the workplace is not always what it appears to be.

Bullying seems very juvenile in nature, but its negative impact can linger on for the rest of a person's life. It leaves wounds that become quite difficult to heal over time. Mental abusers often turn around and inflict the behaviors of their abusers on others. The way it affects a person's mental health is quite devastating. It can destroy an individual by lowering their self esteem, causing thoughts of suicide, and causing that individual to want to be isolated from others. Depressions is sure to follow. A result that is really disheartening is when the victim begins to identify with the abuser and excuse their behavior.

One question that always comes up is how to deal with bullies. The answer yet remains the same. An individual has two options. They can either stand up to the bully, or completely ignore them.

One must understand the mindset of their emotional attacker. Individuals that have been around for a while have more understanding than a typical child would. Understanding that the abuse is not really personally connected to the victim is the first step. It all revolves around the person causing the abuse. They tend not to just bully one person, but many.

Knowing the mindset of the abuser is half the battle. When one understands that the attacker actually suffers from an illness, it becomes less personal for the victim. They have a better chance in ignoring the behavior of the bully.

When it comes to standing up to a bully, it may be scary at the first, but it usually has a positive outcome. It forces the bully to change his ways. They may not completely change, but their behavior will be altered in some way. Mental bullying often forces the bully to look at themselves and self evaluate. Those that realize that they have a problem, may want to seek out the proper help that they need.




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