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dimanche 24 novembre 2013

Being Patient When Trying To Get Your Girlfriend Back

By Erick Hastings


When something or someone is important in your life, it's difficult to be patient. With your ex girlfriend, being patient is nearly impossible. You are filled with worry and fear. You worry that another guy is going to get her attention. You worry that she might forget that you still love her. You worry that her friends or family are going to completely turn her against you. You are fearful that you will never get back together with her and that she is gone for good. Your relationship is important to you and you fear the loss of that love that you might never feel from her again.

There's no sense in pretending that you're doing well. There's no sense in lying to yourself that you're not worried. All of these emotions weigh heavy on your mind as you worry about your relationship. You grow suspicious and angry about the situation that you're in. Did some other guy turn her away from you? Is there someone else that is filling her head with lies? All of these emotions are making you desperate for an answer and being desperate can cause you to make mistakes when trying to get the woman that you love back.

A common reaction to this fear and all these emotions is to come up with a plan or scheme to get our ex back that goes something like this. We first try to apologize to our ex. We might make a list of things that we did wrong or things that we didn't do when we were in the relationship. We promise to do everything right. We tell our ex that we're sorry and that everything will be fine if they will only give us a second chance. We can change and we might even show our ex the things that we have begun to change.

When that doesn't work, you may have tried some variations of this technique. You tried being super nice to her or you bought her gifts. You may have even told her that you had bought these gifts before you broke up but you wanted her to have these things. You may have even begged or cried and pleaded with her to have mercy upon your soul and asked her to give you another chance. You told her that you loved her and that she was the most important person in your life.

You might honestly believe that these methods will help you to get back together with your girlfriend but, as you see, these are the typical methods that most guys try when they are frantic to get a girl back. Your instincts are telling you to do all of these things but it is fear that is your motivation. It is that feeling of loss that is making you act desperately. You aren't thinking right and your emotions are controlling you. You need to relax, put yourself in her position and understand where she is coming from. You need to understand what it is that drives a woman to fall in love and what she needs to feel in order to want to get back together with you.

In order to change your ex-girlfriend's mind you need to understand how women think. The only thing that will get your girlfriend to come back to you is love. So, in order for her to change her mind she has to feel a deep and abiding love for you again. You see, it's more than a decision that she made between the two of you when she left. She told all of her friends and her family that she was breaking up with you. When she comes back to you, she is going to have to explain everything to all of those people why she has changed her mind and the only thing that can make a woman do something like that is a form of female insanity called love.

Understanding your girlfriend's emotions and basing your actions upon making her feel the emotions necessary for her to fall in love with you again is the route that you should take. While this might sound simple or easy, it's your emotional state that is getting in your way. You actually care too much at the moment. You are so fearful of losing her for good that you aren't being yourself. If you could step back and not care so much then you would realize that getting her back isn't really all that difficult. If you can, try not to care so much. Try not to worry so much and you will begin to understand your ex-girlfriend and how she is feeling about you right now.




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