If you believe you can just learn a secret system or technique and succeed with girls, you're in for a rude awakening. You could remember a ton of lines and routines and go out and approach girls. This will succeed just to break the ice and get your foot in the door. To effectively pickup girls, you need to emotionally involve a girl, and not just use mechanical techniques.
Many men have the misconception that pickup methods are just about dropping lines, gimmicks, and routines. Ultimately though, successfully attracting a woman is about making a special emotional connection in between you 2. It's not just about the lines you're spouting or the techniques you're dropping but you need to adjust and adapt to the sort of individual she is, what she's thinking, and what she's feeling. This is what is known to pickup artists as "calibration.".
After you have actually approached a girl and successfully opened the door, you have to immediately move in to demonstrating your high value. In other words, you need to emotionally engage a woman and bring her into your reality. There are 3 primary means to do this:
A) Cocky/Funny
This is acting cocky in a funny way. Not being outright rude or a clown, but being smart and confident in what you say. The following is a very basic sequence of a cocky/funny sequence:
You: So what was your name again?
Woman: Cathy.
You: Nice name, you spell that with a C or K ?
Girl: K.
You: Are you serious? Haha, I don't want to talk to you anymore...
Woman: WTF? Why not?!
You: Every Kathy that spells her name with a K is trouble... Like I know a Cathy with a C and she's a good friend, but every Kathy who spells it with a K I've ever met has been such a party girl.. horrible influences on my life...
The most crucial aspect of the above communication is not the cocky/funny itself but just how you're bringing her in to your reality. You are using a concept called, "push-pull." This is basically when you say something negative followed by something nice, and back and forth again. By doing this, not only are you attracting her with your cocky/funny routine, you are establishing a personal, emotional connection with her.
B) Gimmicks and routines.
There are all sorts of gimmicks and routines you can use to demonstrate your value. One of the most efficient routines are magic tricks. A woman will ooh and aah at a magic trick and will immediately create intrigue and interest towards you. However, this does not always create attraction. To create attraction, you need to emotionally engage a woman with your trick.
Again, this means to bring her into your reality. This is done by engaging her and absorbing her into your magic trick. You do a trick that actively engages her into the trick. Stuff like reading her mind or guessing the number she's thinking etc. works well to engage her emotions.
C) Reading and understanding her
Women will be irresistibly drawn to you if you understand them as a person and acknowledge the kind of person she is. The following is an sample dialogue that demonstrates this point:
When I first talked to you, you seemed sort of cold, but I don't know ... You know there are two types of people in this world. Those who observe and those that are observed, and you seem a lot more like the observer type of person. I believe when people initially meet you, they'll believe you're cold and distant but that's only because they don't know you. You experience the world through your feelings and just want to ensure that the people you allow into your life are really good people. But that's only a defense you put up to protect yourself because when you're around the right people and having a good time, you can let go and be yourself. And that's what you're looking for in life, i think, people who you can be real with and that genuinely understands you as a person.
This is among the most powerful methods to instantly emotionally involve a girl. This will immediately create powerful attraction along with connection. However, you really have to be perceptive and thoughtful, which only comes with skill and experience.
The point of all these is to emotionally engage a girl. Everything you do, all the gimmicks, lines, and tricks you throw down has no meaning unless you involve a girl and make an emotional connection. Keep the dull talk to a minimum. As soon as you open the door and get in, immediately engage her emotions with the above methods.
Many men have the misconception that pickup methods are just about dropping lines, gimmicks, and routines. Ultimately though, successfully attracting a woman is about making a special emotional connection in between you 2. It's not just about the lines you're spouting or the techniques you're dropping but you need to adjust and adapt to the sort of individual she is, what she's thinking, and what she's feeling. This is what is known to pickup artists as "calibration.".
After you have actually approached a girl and successfully opened the door, you have to immediately move in to demonstrating your high value. In other words, you need to emotionally engage a woman and bring her into your reality. There are 3 primary means to do this:
A) Cocky/Funny
This is acting cocky in a funny way. Not being outright rude or a clown, but being smart and confident in what you say. The following is a very basic sequence of a cocky/funny sequence:
You: So what was your name again?
Woman: Cathy.
You: Nice name, you spell that with a C or K ?
Girl: K.
You: Are you serious? Haha, I don't want to talk to you anymore...
Woman: WTF? Why not?!
You: Every Kathy that spells her name with a K is trouble... Like I know a Cathy with a C and she's a good friend, but every Kathy who spells it with a K I've ever met has been such a party girl.. horrible influences on my life...
The most crucial aspect of the above communication is not the cocky/funny itself but just how you're bringing her in to your reality. You are using a concept called, "push-pull." This is basically when you say something negative followed by something nice, and back and forth again. By doing this, not only are you attracting her with your cocky/funny routine, you are establishing a personal, emotional connection with her.
B) Gimmicks and routines.
There are all sorts of gimmicks and routines you can use to demonstrate your value. One of the most efficient routines are magic tricks. A woman will ooh and aah at a magic trick and will immediately create intrigue and interest towards you. However, this does not always create attraction. To create attraction, you need to emotionally engage a woman with your trick.
Again, this means to bring her into your reality. This is done by engaging her and absorbing her into your magic trick. You do a trick that actively engages her into the trick. Stuff like reading her mind or guessing the number she's thinking etc. works well to engage her emotions.
C) Reading and understanding her
Women will be irresistibly drawn to you if you understand them as a person and acknowledge the kind of person she is. The following is an sample dialogue that demonstrates this point:
When I first talked to you, you seemed sort of cold, but I don't know ... You know there are two types of people in this world. Those who observe and those that are observed, and you seem a lot more like the observer type of person. I believe when people initially meet you, they'll believe you're cold and distant but that's only because they don't know you. You experience the world through your feelings and just want to ensure that the people you allow into your life are really good people. But that's only a defense you put up to protect yourself because when you're around the right people and having a good time, you can let go and be yourself. And that's what you're looking for in life, i think, people who you can be real with and that genuinely understands you as a person.
This is among the most powerful methods to instantly emotionally involve a girl. This will immediately create powerful attraction along with connection. However, you really have to be perceptive and thoughtful, which only comes with skill and experience.
The point of all these is to emotionally engage a girl. Everything you do, all the gimmicks, lines, and tricks you throw down has no meaning unless you involve a girl and make an emotional connection. Keep the dull talk to a minimum. As soon as you open the door and get in, immediately engage her emotions with the above methods.
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